7 Steps To Change Your Negative Habits And Behaviours To
Positive:
You Can Create Your Desired Future.
What does it really take to change one’s negative concepts
and belief system? What does it take to turn one’s life around for the better?
How can you transform yourself to be that which you know you are capable of
being? What do you have to do to shake off those negative and self-sabotaging
habits, thoughts and routines that you yourself find self-destructive?
Whether it’s a habit of procrastination, continuos
discouragement, laziness, irresponsibility, alcohol addiction, drugs addiction,
other specific addictions, self-criticism, self-sabotage, low self-esteem,
self-harming, lack of self-confidence and any other negative mind programmings,
there are three foundational elements that must be in place for positive
changes to begin:
Desire
Decision
Determination.
a. Desire: The starting place for any life transformation is
to develop a burning desire to change. Desire is the gateway to change.
b. Decision: After developing a burning desire, you will
have to decide to change. Nobody will do this for you. Desire alone does not
cause change. It takes a deliberate decision to initiate change on your part.
Decision is personal commitment to positive actions that will connect you to
your desired destination or new experiences.
c. Determination. Determination is persistent positive
actions until you achieve your goals. A
burning desire, coupled with positive decisions, is not capable on its own to guarantee
you your desired future, unless you add determination. Life is tough. There
will be challenges and periods of discouragements. Expect to be low in
motivation and inspiration at times. Whether you like or not, there’ll be
failures and setbacks. But what keeps you going is your sheer determination
never to give up. It is your undivided and relentless devotion to positive
actions, in spite of the threatening adversities and trials, that will propel
you to achieving your goals.
Know Your Real Battle Ground
Your mind is the battle ground for change. It is where your
winning or losing will be decided. Whatever changes you desire to make, it will
have to start in your mind. Without the transformation of your mind from the
old ways of doing things to the new ways of doing things, you cannot leave your
debilitating habits behind you. You will have to focus on changing your life
from the inside-out. That is, from the invisible (from your old mind-set and
mentality) to the visible ( to your new life experiences).
Now, regarding changing your life from the inside-out, there
are few timeless principles that you will have to engage. These principles have
been proven and tested by thousands of ordinary people who against all odds
have managed to change the course of their entire lives for he better.
Here are a few you should start doing immediately to create
swift positive changes in your life. Of course, this is to be used after you
already have the above three prerequisites for positive changes in place:
desire, decision and determination:
Write down your
goals. This is where the magic of change starts. Until you write down the
specific positive changes you want, it is wishful thinking. But once you write
down your goals, you activate energising and success chemicals in your brain
that increase your creativity, energy and discernment. You start to see more
opportunities and attract other things to help you achieve your goal. This
single success principle has transformed more lives than any other breakthrough
principle there is.
Visualise yourself
as though you’ve achieved your goals. This is crucial. To visualise is to
imagine yourself all the time to have attained the exact positive changes you
intend to create. For example if you want to loose weight or stop smoking, you
will have to start visualising and seeing yourself in the exact weight you love
to be or as non-smoker – someone who can no longer stand the devastating
long-term effects of smoking in the lungs. For you to be able to train your
brain to drop the old ingrained habit patterns, you need to channel your new
expected life experience unto it continuously like a ferocious laser beams
until your old habits are burnt off and your new habits are inscribed.
Visualisation is the creative code of your subconscious mind. Whatever future
you cannot see first through the eyes of your imagination, you can not walk
into. Another thing here; ensure you imagine yourself in your new experience
everyday for at least 21 days. This is about the time it takes for a new habit
to form.
Use positive
affirmations. Affirmation is when you say aloud to yourself, with emotions and
passion, a positive statement that describes you as already in possession of
your intended positive changes. For example;
some wanting to stop smoking can say this; “I am non-smoker and enjoy
the renewed chest and lung energy I am feeling, as well as the refreshing body
fragrance I diffuse to others.” This is a powerful affirmation if stop-smoking
is one of your goals. But the main key here is REPETITION. regardless of the
type of changes you want to make, you will have to keep repeating appropriate
affirmations that describe your goal in its completed state, until your
subconscious mind accepts them as your new life operating principles. Humans
are programmable beings, Even the advertisers know this. They know they can get
you to eventually buy their products if they put advertisements in front of you
long enough. Continue to say your affirmations until you hear yourself saying
it in your dreams. When that happens you are just about orchestrating a
powerful mind behavioural modification.
Feed your mind
with positive messages. Like I already mentioned, your mind is your world and
battle grounds for your destiny. If all that you feed into it is negativity
that you get from watching unhelpful TV programmes or reading pointless books
that multiply your fears and irresponsibility, you will be weakening your mind
strength to pull off the positive changes you are desiring. Your life moves
towards the directions of your thoughts. Therefore, listen to inspirational and
motivational messages that will flood your mind with positive thoughts. Read
biographies of successful and victorious
people who have already overcome the challenges you are now going through.
Identify how they managed to turn their lives around. Look for the principles
they used. This will fill your mind with greater motivation and passion to
further commit to positive changes.
Get positive
friends. Friends are agents for success or failures. You cannot succeed beyond
the success capabilities of your closest friends. If you want to conquer
alcohol addiction, and the friends you hang out with are all alcoholics, you
are basically deceiving yourself. You cannot pull off a Rolls-Royce kind of
life while wallowing in a bicycle-like living. You need to make hard decisions
about those you call friends if you must turn your future around. Those whose
attitudes and habits you do not want in your future should not be your closest
friends any more. Identify those in whose presence you are energised, inspired
and filled with seeds of greatness. Then pay any price to be in their company
more often.
Seek the right
help. Sometimes, the changes you need to make requires the expertise and
support of a professional, or just the loving care of your parents, siblings,
friends or your spouse. If you feel this’s applicable to your situation, you
must move fast and seek appropriate help. Refuse to procrastinate on this. True
strength is revealed in one’s willingness to reach for help and reach for it
quickly. You do not want to wait until irrecoverable damages have been caused.
Do not join those people who are too proud to salvage their future and
destinies from wasting away. We’ll always need other people to partner with us
in some capacity if we must achieve our goals. And if that comes in a form of
practical or emotional support from others, that’s brilliant. Nobody succeeds
alone.
Take action.
Finally, you must accept full responsibility to commit to those positive steps
that lead to positive changes. While setting your goal, it should also contain
the action-steps you intend to be taking daily in order to achieve your goals –
such as what you need to be doing, what you need to stop doing, what you need
to do less of and of course what you need to do more of. So it is now your duty
to daily commit to these actions until your desired results show up. Remember
the three pre-requisite elements I started with – desire, decision,
determination. This is when you put them to the test. If you use all of the
above tips, the results you’ll create will literally stun you. I did not say
it’s all going to be easy and fun. certainly not! But the price you will pay to
change will be far lower than the price of allowing those negative habits,
behaviours and life style to truncate your destiny. I do believe
that if you choose to pay the price for positive changes, the rewards
and satisfactions of your victory will be really worth it.
Hope these tips are helpful to you. If you don’t mind, let
me know how you are getting on.
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